How can a person get to know themselves in the best way?

One day, before going to sleep at night, in silence and in an environment where there is no one but you, you should ask yourself the question "who am I?" Although many people say they know themselves, they actually don't know themselves. For this reason, many people cannot discover ways to find solutions to the problems they experience. At the same time, because they are not aware of the characteristics they should not have, they continue to live in low quality of life standards. A person knowing themselves, a person knowing who they are is always a beneficial awareness in every aspect.

Have you ever wondered what the person you are closest to and enjoy spending time with likes the most about you? Or is there anyone close to you at all? If so, are those people the reason why no one is close to you? Or is it you? The answers to all these questions are actually related to who you are. They are questions about getting to know yourself. It's a brand new opportunity to become aware of what you don't know about yourself.

Know yourself

Think of all your characteristic features as an item. In this way, your characteristic features can turn into a physical item instead of being an intangible, invisible element, and you can apply the changes you want on these items. For example, "being well-intentioned" is a characteristic feature, but you should now think of this characteristic feature as an item. Let's say you are a well-intentioned person. Imagine the existing good intention not as a feature, but as an item that you constantly carry in your pocket or with you.

Similarly, "being malicious" is also a characteristic feature. If you are a malicious person, you should imagine this not as your feature, but as an item that you constantly carry with you. Additionally, you should be honest with yourself. Don't worry, after reading this article, you will be alone with yourself to get to know yourself. No one will judge you or criticize you. Therefore, there is no obstacle to being honest with yourself.

If you are a jealous, malicious person, you should admit this to yourself and seek solutions. Rest assured, when you know yourself with the good and the bad, a feeling of relief will come and after a while your quality of life will be positively affected.

Ask your close friends what kind of person you are

People who have the right to criticize you by saying "You are this kind of person" are probably your close friends. Because they spend time with you and they have to deal with the consequences of your bad things along with your good ones.

Ask them what kind of person you are. Their comments will be quite close to reality. At the same time, since you know your close friends are not ill-intentioned, the negative things they say won't bother you. It will help you gain insight about knowing yourself.

Afterwards, ask yourself these questions:

• What were the activities I enjoyed during my most difficult times, when I was upset or depressed
• What do people who complain about you complain about the most? Is there a specific characteristic that they commonly complain about?

As a result of all this, write down all the items you possess on a piece of paper based on the answers given to the questions and the answers you should give. The items written on this paper are the characteristic features that make you who you are. Now, since each of the things written on the paper is an item, examine these items a bit.

Think deeply about each one. Which one makes you a better person? Which one increases your quality of life? Or which one makes you unhappy, restless, and sad, lowering your quality of life? Throw away the items that seriously affect you negatively in your daily life. Get rid of them in one go. However, only strive to throw away the items that harm you very, very much. Don't try to throw away many items at once. Remember that what makes you you is a blend of good and bad items. At the same time, no one is perfect.

In this activity, you only need to eliminate the items that lower your quality of life. All those items you wrote on that paper represent you. And by changing what is written on this paper, adding new items and crossing out some of them, you can change yourself. Just being patient and being honest with that paper where you listed the items will be enough.

Be aware of bad items that seem good

If you've read this far, you may have interpreted it as just getting rid of bad items - characteristic features -. However, we advised you to get rid of items that lower your quality of life. That is, regardless of whether they are good or bad, get rid of items you are not satisfied with.

For example, the "maliciousness" item directly makes you a bad person. You should definitely get rid of this item. At the same time, the "maliciousness" item makes you someone who is not truly loved in your environment. Similarly, you may need to get rid of the "being polite" item. You might ask, "Is being polite a bad thing?"

Each characteristic needs to be at a measured level. Any characteristic feature that disrupts this balance, whether too little or too much, harms your life. Politeness is included in this. Being too polite makes you a person with high potential to be used. Many people will use you. In a situation where you are so polite that you are outside the balance, you may be characterized as a "loser" by other people. Therefore, you need to think deeply about all the items on that paper you wrote, regardless of whether they are good or bad.

As a result, you should discard items that harm you and preserve items you think are beneficial.